50 Shades of Grey Uproar...Give Me a Break.

Silly me. I thought that the controversy about 50 Shades of Grey was over. I thought maybe we wouldn't have to talk about it anymore. I didn't REALLY think they would try to make a movie out of it....how is it that I can be such a realist but still continue to be surprised when movie makers just HAVE to cash in on something even when it doesn't make sense.

A 50 Shades of Grey movie doesn't make sense. Period.

But THAT really isn't my issue. My issue is all the indignant posts I have seen on Facebook and other places now that there is a trailer for the movie being shown on TV. You know, the posts about how 50 Shades of Grey is eroding marriage and how it is pornography and is altering our perception of real life. THAT IS TOTAL CRAP....for several reasons.

First, if you have not read ALL THREE books in the trilogy, SHUT UP. Just shut it. You don't know what you are talking about, as usual. Just like with everything else, there are too many people out there criticizing something they know nothing about. Like the people who say Harry Potter is demonic but haven't read it...and don't see that it is a good vs evil, almost Christ allegory, not really any different from The Chronicles of Narnia. (The only difference is that it is OK to talk about witches if the author is a minister like CS Lewis)

THERE ARE GOING TO BE SPOILERS.
I'm not here to convince you that 50 Shades is great literature or anything. But it WAS fun reading. But besides that, here is a truth you may have missed. While Ana and Christian have an "arrangement" at first, Christian soon realizes that he has no interest in being with anyone but Ana. Plus, at the end of book 2, Ana leaves Christian because she no longer wants to be part of the dom-sub thing. When they get back together, it is in a committed relationship...and they get married and have a baby at the end. Also, if you atually READ the books, you find that the reason Chritian doesn't really know how to have a regular relationship with a woman is because he was molested by his mom's friend as a teenager and introduced to the dom-sub world during his formative years. He never really sees a real relationship. He has to learn about it. The story also shows how this arrangement can go wrong if one of the pair is mentally unstable (like with the other girl).

The books also have a real storyline.....a fatal attraction, someone trying to kill them, etc. There is really lots more than sex. To be honest, by the end of book two, the sex really was secondary as far as I was concerned.

And then lets talk about the sex. Not that I plan to be graphic or anything, but I don't really understand what all the controversy is about. They are consenting adults and the stuff they do isn't that unusual....people do those things every day.....in the privacy of their own bedrooms. Trust me. I'm not saying I'm a fan of their arrangement...I think that part is weird. But then again, I am not into casual sex at all. Sex is a love thing only with me, but within the confines of my marital bed, I will do whatever I see fit. And I don't need or want anyone's permission or approval about that. I don't understand why that should be different with Ana and Christian. I don't understnad how what these fictional characters are doing is somehow going to erode YOUR marriage. The bottom line is that they agree on what they will do, they are responsible about it (mostly), and when the arrangement no longer works, they renegotiate. AND IT IS FICTION.

If you don't like it, don't read it. No one is forcing you. But keep you mouth shut when you are tempted to shame others for reading it. It is none of your business. And as is most often the case, most of us out here in the world are not really interested in what you have to say as long as you are riding your condescending moral high horse. Here is a for instance, I think Magic Mike is absolutely stupid. You couldn't have dragged me to see that. But I don't belittle my friends who went and REALLY enjoyed themselves. Good for them. It is simply escapism at its best. STOP JUDGING PEOPLE. GET OVER YOURSELVES. LIVE AND LET LIVE.